Originally, the woman was a prop – the recipient of the hero’s love. Usually the underdog, she likes everyone, and everyone likes her. Her charm lies in her ability to laugh at herself, which makes her approachable and just a bit vulnerable. An orphan, she remains uncorrupted by the cruel world. Examples include: Ingrid Bergman as Ilsa in The Waif has been attacked by feminists, but her appeal to men is undeniable.
But neediness is not gender-specific – guys make the mistake of being “needy” too!
But it’s pretty clearly understood that men are visual creatures, and their response to a woman will often hinge primarily, or even exclusively, on whether their sexual attraction switch is in the on or off position. She longs for a love life, but is usually unassertive in pursuing men. She is a handful, but draws people to her with her free spirited and impulsive ways. Makes decisions based on her emotions and instincts – which invariably gets her into trouble. Does not fight for herself or talk back, but endures hardships until she is rescued.
The role of women in stories has changed dramatically over time. Examples include: Lois Lane, Meg Ryan in Has a rough time attracting men. Often unwilling to be the girly girl just to catch a male’s attention.4. Amusing, a great storyteller, loves being the center of attention. Examples include: Ariel in Her vivacity and lust for life often make her irresistible to men, though they find her puzzling and unpredictable. Drifts through life desperately seeking a real home, having been molded by a sense of isolation.
So I want you to know that I am putting this out there to help and inspire everyone to have more dating success, to point fingers. ” and pretty much any sentence that begins with ‘why didn’t you,’ it’s like nails on a chalkboard.
I can tell you from a guy’s perspective that when a woman says things like: “Why didn’t you call? Those kinds of statements will immediately put a guy on the defensive rather than motivating him to change and he’ll probably withdraw emotionally as a result… I would say the core reason of this is that it attacks a guy’s sense of freedom and feeling of acknowledgment. Well, when a woman starts down this chain of “Why didn’t you…” it feels to a guy as if she isn’t noticing all of the other things he is doing for a relationship. It’s perfectly normal and healthy to want a relationship with all the good qualities: connection, chemistry, understanding, intimacy, attentiveness and on and on.